Ready to Listen

I had lunch with our twenty-one year-old daughter last week. We were talking about some life lessons she has learned in the last year or so. When I nodded with a smile and affirmed what she was saying, she said,

"You KNEW that?  Why didn't you tell me that three years ago?!"

I literally laughed outloud and said, "Oh Hannah, you weren't listening to me three years ago."

The fact of the matter is, in many ways, she is only now beginning to listen. She prides herself on being very independent and making her own decisions.  Three years ago, when she was 18, she couldn't wait to move out of our house and we knew nothing.

I went on to talk to her about how badly my mom wanted to save me (and my two sisters) from making the same mistakes she did; to make the learning process easier and to take away the sting of the bumps and bruises we endure along the way. The truth is, we wouldn't listen either. We had to find out on our own. Unfortunately, some things we really do have to learn for ourself, and, yes, sometimes it is the hard way.

Even as I had to laugh to myself over Hannah's tone and question, I thought about a poem that I had read many years ago by Ruth Graham in a book entitled, Sitting By My Laughing Fire.  Untitled, it says this:

They felt good eyes upon them and shrank within – undone; good parents had good children and they – a wandering one. The good folk never meant to act smug or condemn, but having prodigals just "wasn't done" with them. Remind them gently, Lord, how You, have trouble with Your children too."

Yep, that's me. Do I always listen the first time? Do I know that His timing is perfect? Do I truly believe He has my best interests in mind? Am I convinced that although I do not see it now, there is wisdom in His counsel? Am I willing to trust His heart even when I don't see His hand? Am I able to see His guiding principles beyond a set of rules?

I, like Hannah, have probably said to God,

"You KNEW that? Why didn't you tell me that three years {or, insert any time frame here} ago?"

And He would gently say, "Oh my child, you weren't listening to me three years {or any time frame} ago!"

Hopefully as all of us grow and mature, we realize even more the wisdom of listening to godly counsel. Hannah is listening more and more.  Hopefully, I am too.

Let's keep our ears and heart open together.  Have a great week!



About debbierivers

I love to share what I can whenever I can. My goal is to live simply and love lavishly. I enjoy inspiring others with my writing. I am married to Steve and am the mother to two beautiful daughters, Hannah and Jenna, and grandmother to Kinsley. My desire is to encourage and to bless others through my life and my words.
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