The Stuff That Matters

So, it's time for another change of perspective is this girl's mind and heart.

I recently wrote an article for The Angel Company's newsletter, entitled, "Stop It!"  It was a call to stop wasting our time and energy on the elusive "It" and discover our "Why."  All of us have limited time, energy and resources. So how are we going to best invest those in accomplishing goals that are not only measurable but fulfilling? Instead of chasing "It," why don't we find out why we are doing what we are doing? They are thought provoking questions, to be sure. 

So, I am looking at my home in particular, and my life in general, with new eyes.  I have so much stuff! Why do I have what I have and how is it benefiting my life? An evening with friends last night, brought up the same general conversation. We talked about the things we save for our children. Will they want them when the time comes? Are they worth saving for many years? Are there ways to save the memories without saving the stuff?  We talked about the things we have from loved ones who have passed away. In my case, I still have things of my mom's that I have not gone through or that I just couldn't stand to see going to Goodwill. She passed away two years ago. Do we save things because they belonged to our loved ones or because the things themselves are significant, or both? We talked about things we have in our homes that belong to our grown children who have not yet settled down into a home of their own. Dorm and apartment life demand efficiency and all the extra is left behind. Will they be things that they come back to claim? I told my friends of two boxes in our basement. Each daughter has a box full of Beanie Babies that my mom had given them through their growing up years. Neither are ready to get rid of those Beanie Babies even though they never see them anymore.  That same sentimentality makes me happy to keep those boxes for them.

So, my new eyes?  I'm looking around my house realizing that very little of the stuff matters. What matters most to me is my faith, family and friends, my writing and my memory-keeping projects. Does my home reflect that? Would you know that by walking in? I hope so. Are there extra things that don't enrich my faith, family and friends?  Is there stuff that hinders my creativity?  Definitely! What I realized by asking myself "Why" I do what I do and have what I have, is that much of it is not necessary. It's time to let it go!

There is a social experiment being done where a group of people decided to put themselves on a 'Fashion Diet.' Each person took six items of clothing (not counting underwear!) and wore those same clothes in different combinations for 31 days.  What surprised them the most was how few people (spouses included) noticed that they were wearing the same things over and over! It certainly made them question how many clothes they really "needed."

What we need and what we want are as different as pursuing "It" and discovering our "Why." The homes and clothes, cars and toys that commercials would try and convince us that we need can also overwhelm us and keep us from what's dearest to us.  This girl's just trying to find the balance! So, I've decided to forget "It" and get rid of some of the stuff that has cluttered not only my shelves, but also my mind.  By doing that, I'm looking forward to some room to breathe… indeed, true, fresh inspiration!

Clearing the Way With You,

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About debbierivers

I love to share what I can whenever I can. My goal is to live simply and love lavishly. I enjoy inspiring others with my writing. I am married to Steve and am the mother to two beautiful daughters, Hannah and Jenna, and grandmother to Kinsley. My desire is to encourage and to bless others through my life and my words.
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1 Response to The Stuff That Matters

  1. Just wanted to share a thought with you regarding all the “things” we have a hard time letting go of (I’m no exception)… I think I read this idea somewhere but don’t remember the exact source, sorry…
    I believe this idea would work well for your daughters’ Beenie Babies… make a scrapbook (can be a quick inventory-like one)… either digital or in-hand… using photos of those items… then have the girls decide on a chartiy(ies) to donate them too… I’m sure that less fortunate kids would give those Beenie Babies the love the deserve.
    For a lot of those things that we’re holding on to for sentimental reasons, it’s so we don’t forget the giver, the occasion, etc. so a visual (photo) record is a great way to keep those memories alive and easy to recount… hope this helps…
    Have a great day,
    Kathy McDaniels
    Orlando FL

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