Making a Day Happen

My friend told me of a text she received from another friend this week.  It said this,

"I am making a me day happen."

I loved it instantly. 

I know that technically we all have 24 hours to work with.  Often 8 hours are committed to a job and 8 hours to sleep (if you're really lucky!), which leaves 8 hours for activities of our choice… right? Well, not so much, really.  Especially as women we spend most of that 8 hours 'free' time and part of the 8 hours of sleep time attending to other people's needs.  As for laundry and cleaning and cooking and dishes, they are never done.

So it is not such a far-fetched idea that we have to make some time for us or for anything else we specifically want to see happen.  Perhaps part of the reason that text resonated with me is because I was in the process of making sure that a day with each of my girls "happened" before the new school year begins. Though both are close by, I know it won't always be so. One is beginning her Freshman year in college (we move her in tomorrow); the other her Senior year in college.  So, I talked to each one, asking them to figure out a day that would work for them.  That was the hardest part!

My goal for that day is to bless them.  I don't want it to be materialistically, though no doubt we will end up buying a few things for school. I want to get to know them better as the adults they are becoming rather than the kids I remember them to be. We will go out of town because I have learned that driving time is great talking time which is not face-to-face.  {That comes in handy if conversations get hard or feelings get raw.} It will include some sweet treat, some picture taking and a little question and answer time. I will remind them that they are loved and prayed for and ask them to forgive me if I fall into my mom-speech about the hazards of life.

Here are a few of the questions I may ask… What do you like most about you?  What would you most like to change about yourself? This can not be a physical attribute.  What is one thing you KNOW to be true about God?  What is the biggest mistake I made as a parent?  What color best reflects your personality?  If money were no object, what would you most like to do for someone else?  So far, what is the one year that has changed your life the most and why?

We'll see how the conversation goes and what other doors some of these questions may open up, but, for now, it gives me a start.  It is about making a day happen instead of letting them slide by and regretting not taking more time for the people we love the most.

This week, I encourage you to make a day happen. It doesn't have to be a special occasion; in fact, some of the most memorable are for no reason at all.  You can plan it for this weekend or for a day months away. This week I also heard of an opportunity called a "QDA."  It stands for "Quiet Day Away."  Who wouldn't love a QDA?!  Our lives are indeed full. We need to live with intention, making sure that these lives we're living reflect what's really important to us.

Have fun making plans!


About debbierivers

I love to share what I can whenever I can. My goal is to live simply and love lavishly. I enjoy inspiring others with my writing. I am married to Steve and am the mother to two beautiful daughters, Hannah and Jenna, and grandmother to Kinsley. My desire is to encourage and to bless others through my life and my words.
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1 Response to Making a Day Happen

  1. Elaine Moore says:

    Is there a way to subscribe to your posts and receive them via email??? I’ve just discovered your blog and just LOVE it – so encouraging and uplifting…would enjoy receiving it on a regular basis if possible.

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